I heard this story while upside down in the dentist’s chair and had I not had a mouth full of implements and fingers I would have no doubt gagged, or shouted, or groaned. If I were her mother, or her best friend, or big sister I would smack this lovely woman up the side of her head.
I don’t understand the concept of I just have to be married, and I certainly don’t understand making marriage a destination or goal.
Mind you perhaps I don’t understand how some women feel, as I was married for a very very very long time. But I am also now not married, having seen that very very very long marriage go down the tubes with virtually no warning. It seems that my ex met up with someone who had also set a marriage goal-marrying him. Her own marriage and his were just pesky little details for the both of them. So naturally I am a tad sour on the idea of ever uttering the words til death do we part again.
But still 52 weeks to find a husband? Not a partner, or a great guy, or a wonderful date, but a HUSBAND. Like that’s the ultimate prize in the cracker jack box? While I applaud her initiative and her take-charge way of going about this, I am skeptical. Something in me thinks she really wants a wedding more than a marriage.
But despite my cynicism I wish her luck. But even more so I wish her insight. Perhaps she will get to the end of the 52 weeks and realize that she doesn’t want to get married, and certainly doesn’t need too. Perhaps she will find that she is a smart, talented, accomplished female and whole person all on her own without someone else. Perhaps she will find that Mr. Wonderful she seeks but decide that the white dress and binding legal contract aren’t necessary. Perhaps she, and hopefully a lot of women, young girls, (my daughters included!) and all of our society will cease viewing marriage as the ultimate touchdown.
And on another point-at the end of the article the author asks the question
So what happens if she doesn’t find her soul mate by 2010?
I don’t believe she said she was looking for a soul mate. She’s looking for a spouse, and those are not necessarily one in the same.
